Stress No More | Darshan Shanti


Darshan G. Shanti, author of the bestselling The 24 Hour Champion



Stress is a killer! It makes you sick. It lowers your immune response. It steals your energy and it makes you chronically tired. It can cause depression, anxiety, self-doubt and feelings of helplessness. It can cause you to lose sight of the big picture, make you settle for less and it could keep you from setting goals. It causes an array of health problems. It affects your sleep, your lifestyle, your relationships, your financial situation and most everything else in your life.



On top of that, we live in a world that seems to just keep getting more hectic, crazy and fast-paced. Everyone wants to keep up with the Joneses. We are bombarded with tens of thousands of messages a day to buy this or buy that. We have 500 channels to choose from, cell phones we can’t escape from, 100’s of emails to go through, etc., etc., etc. With all that, stress seems inevitable. That may lead you to believe that there is nothing you can do about it. Well, nothing could be further from the truth.



The truth is that you don’t have to put up with its harmful affects anymore. What this program will enable you to do is to change your own mind about what stress is and how it affects you. Once you change your own mind, the change is permanent. At that point there will be no room for stress in your life.



I want you to know that, very soon, stress will be a thing of the past, a distant memory, an old and outdated model that no longer serves you anymore. It will take some work and some time to retrain yourself to think in different ways, but you will be able to accomplish it with relative ease once you’ve practiced the exercises in this article a few times.



So let’s get to it. Here are 5 very powerful, very critical steps you must take to put yourself back in control and stay that way.



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Step 1 – Define stress for yourself so you know exactly what it is. Most people have never defined stress. They just label things as stressful automatically. By defining exactly what stress means to you, you take how you label the events in your life off automatic pilot and begin to become proactive rather than reactive.



Step 2 – Identify your biggest stressors. In other words, get to the source of it and begin immediately to put measures in place to turn it around. So, in what situations do you find yourself the most “stressed”? At what times do you find yourself the most “stressed”? With what people do you find yourself the most “stressed”?



Sometimes you have to take big steps in order to do that. Ending romantic relationships, quitting a job, letting go of old “friendships” that no longer serve you are some of the bigger changes you may have to make. Those changes, while appearing stressful on the surface, are really and truly liberating.



It takes a serious commitment to look at what’s not working in your life and then take the appropriate steps until you have reached your desired end results.



The benefit is that you’ll feel better. You’ll have more energy. You’ll be healthier, happier, more fulfilled, satisfied and more passionate about life. On top of that, you’ll have more time freedom, you’ll make more money and things will generally flow better.



Step 3 – Ask yourself WHY those things “stress” you. This is a big key in the process. You may never have even thought of that. You might just be in a habitual, unconscious pattern, reacting to a particular situation. When X happens, you respond Y. When A happens, you respond B. And that’s all it is. Stimulus then response. Stimulus then response over and over and over. When you ask yourself WHY, don’t just accept the surface level answer. Go below it and keep asking why until the answer comes to you. What you will find at the core is that you have an undelivered communication to someone or you have an expectation that has not been met or you have an intention to do something and you could not do it for some reason. When you find out what the core reason for your stress is, move on to step 4.



Step 4 - Make the decision that YOU’RE going to be in control and not your circumstances. Make the decision that you’re in charge of how you feel and no outside situations are going to dictate your emotions. To help you make those decisions, here’s the all important question to answer honestly.



Are you really sick and tired of being sick and tired about the way your life is going? That is, do you want the benefits of leading an unstressful life more than you want the reasons why you can’t have that life?



The answer to that question will determine which way your life goes from this point on. So, really think about it and decide which way you’re going to go.



If you answered YES, you’re already half-way there. Congrats. Let’s keep going.



Step 5 – Separate what is actually happening from the meaning you are placing on the event. This is vital. Here’s why. What is, is. All the rest is an interpretation of what’s happening. Once you understand that, you can separate what you’re thinking about what’s happening vs. what’s actually happening. So, if someone is yelling at you, the second you feel the negative feelings coming on, the second you feel the tightness in your chest, the second you feel your stomach turning, the second you start to feel tense, stop it before it goes any further. Ask yourself why you’re letting this event bother you and realize that the person yelling is just a person yelling. That’s it. There are lots of people that yell and it doesn’t bother you. When it’s directed at you, in reality, that makes no difference. Their upset doesn’t have to be the cause of your “stress”. What they’re upset about is what they’re upset about and it’s not about you.



To conclude, the bottom line is that stress is not necessary since it’s caused by how you’re looking at a given situation. Since you can change the way you think about a situation, that automatically changes what you think is stressful. That puts you in control immediately and enables you to have a stress less life.


Darshan G. Shanti, author of the bestselling book The 24 Hour Champion, has helped over 30,000 people in the last 20 years to get over their stress and get on with their lives. To find out more about his work, please visit



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